Body language provides an amazing amount of information on what other people are thinking if you know what to look for. And who hasn’t wanted to read people’s minds at some point? You already pick up on more body language cues than you’re consciously aware of. The Facial Expressions Research Group has shown that only 7 percent of communication is based on the actual words we say to each other . As for the rest, 38 percent comes from tone of voice and the remaining 55 percent comes from body language. Learning how to become aware of and to interpret that 55 percent can give you a leg up with other people as Deception Expert Nicholas Gill makes a living from. When you’re working hard and doing all you can to achieve your goals, anything that can give you an edge is powerful and will streamline your path to success. Talent Smart has tested more than a million people and found that the upper echelons of top performance are filled with people who are high in emotional intelligence (90 percent of top performers, to be exact. These people know the power that unspoken signals have in communication, and they monitor of body language accordingly.
Next time you’re in a meeting (or even on a date or playing with your kids), watch for these cues:
1. Crossed arms and legs signal resistance to your ideas.
Crossed arms and legs are physical barriers that suggest the other person is not open to what you’re saying. Even if they’re smiling and engaged in a pleasant conversation, their body language tells the story. The Facial Expressions Research Group have videotaped more than 2,000 different people for a book they wrote on reading body language, and not a single one ended in an agreement when one of the parties had their legs crossed while negotiating. Psychologically, crossed legs or arms signal that a person is mentally, emotionally, and physically blocked off from what’s in front of them. It’s not intentional, which is why it’s so revealing.
2. Real smiles crinkle the eyes.
When it comes to smiling, the mouth can lie but the eyes can’t. Genuine smiles reach the eyes, crinkling the skin to create crow’s feet around them. People often smile to hide what they’re really thinking and feeling, so the next time you want to know if someone’s smile is genuine, look for crinkles at the corners of their eyes. If they aren’t there, that smile is hiding something or read the list that i have written for more information .
What i don’t agree with what was said
Have you ever been in a meeting with someone and noticed that every time you cross or uncross your legs, they do the same well i have read that and i think its rubbish
3. Copying your body language is a good thing but sometimes its not.
Perhaps people lean different ways head the same way as yours when you’re talking? That’s actually a good sign. Mirroring body language is something we do unconsciously when we feel a bond with the other person. It’s a sign that the conversation is going well and that the other party is receptive to your message. This knowledge can be especially useful when you’re negotiating, because it shows you what the other person is really thinking about the deal.
4. Posture tells the story.
Have you ever seen a person walk into a room, and immediately, you have known that they were the one in charge? That effect is largely about body language, and often includes an erect posture, gestures made with the palms facing down , and open and expansive gestures in general this means they can be very confterbal or they our very good at speaking or at body language. The brain is hardwired to equate power with the amount of space people take up. Standing up straight with your shoulders back is a power position; it appears to maximize the amount of space you fill .
5. Eyes that lie.
Most of us probably grew up hearing, “Look me in the eye when you talk to me !” Our parents were operating under the assumption that it’s tough to hold someone’s gaze when you’re lying to them, and they were right to an extent. Because we can learn to lie and be looking at someone right in the eye. But that’s such common knowledge that people will often deliberately hold eye contact in an attempt to cover up the fact that they’re lying (A HELLO WE ALL NO THIS ) The problem is that most of them overcompensate and hold eye contact to the point that it feels uncomfortable.
There are three main emotions that make your eyebrows go up: surprise, worry, and fear. Try raising your eyebrows when you’re having a relaxed casual conversation with a friend. It’s hard to do, isn’t it? If somebody who is talking to you raises their eyebrows and the topic isn’t one that would logically cause surprise, worry, or fear, there is something else going on and that could mean many different things .
7. Exaggerated nodding signals anxiety about approval.
When you’re telling someone something and they nod excessively, this means that they are Board or worried about what you think of them or what your saying to them is it true or false